Why is it????

Why is it that so many people say they are "ballin" when in actuality their parents are the ones with the money?
Why is it that so many people can't take responsibility for their own actions?
Why is it that people can find the faults in others but never see their own downfalls?
Why is it that women will take a fast money making drug dealer over an honest hardworking man?
Why is it that so many people feel that they are entitle to something when they have done nothing to work for it?
Why is it that as soon as someone starts speaking any kind of truth people shut them out?
Why is it that so many people have to much pride that they rather lose a good person (whether it be friend, family, an intimate relationship) than simply apologize and admit they were wrong?
Why is that some of you reading this are feeling some kind of way because I just hit a nerve??

*the 1st edition of "WHY IS IT????"

Happy Holidays!!!

Whether you celebrate Christmas, Kwanzaa, or Hanukkah. I hoped that you all had a very blessed day and hope that you all bring in the new year safely!! Much love *MUAH*

Queen of Hip-hop Soul

She's back with her ninth studio album. Grammy award winning songstress Mary J Blige has really out done herself with this album with tracks like "In The Morning", "Kitchen" , "Each Tear", & "Stronger". Two decades in the game and she is still making GREAT music. Not only does this show her growth in music but her growth as a woman. We all know the public trials and tribulations Ms. Mary has endured, and how some will never let her forget them. But through all she has done and been through one thing people can not take away from her is her amazing voice and variety of tracks on this album. Mary says that "the album represents who and what I am right now. I'm a stronger human being after all the growing pains. It's about life, love, change, strength." If you are a fan of Mary J Blige I guarantee you will have this entire album on repeat!!!!

BISH I SAW IT FIRST!!!!

'Tis the season for people to lose their everlasting mind..the holidays people promote spreading happiness, joy, and celebrating with your love ones..but they also promote gifts lots and lots of gifts and that brings on sales and heffas scrambling everywhere to get the last wii for little Timmy and the last sweater for their mother..what is it about people i.e. WOMEN that get crazy when it comes to a SALE, I almost chopped this woman in her damn throat for bumping into me, for those that know me I don't play that mess, I'll drop my shit and get EAST PURNT on yo ass with a quickness, I hate the holidays, I know y'all saying WHY QUOYIA WHY?? Because y'all simple asses don't have any manners or no kind of shopping etiquette just be acting straight IGNANT..ugh I can't wait for it to end..I mean really why are you all waiting to the end of the damn year to celebrate and appreciate your loved ones, this should be a YEAR round thing, I tell ya, people are foolish and yes that includes YOU, especially if I have you feeling some kind of way after reading this because that means I'm hitting a nerve bish...I know one thing thing though, over the next year, y'all better learn some manners, we all know I'm no stranger to the back seat of a police car, don't get your ass beat over a sweater...lol...SMOOCHES

Letting GO......

Why is letting go so hard for us whether it be platonic relationships, romantic or even family...We old so dear to those things that are not good for us..is this human nature..is this simply picking this habit it up from others..if so why do we continue this cycle..and how do we break it..I recently had to "let go" of some people in my life and some people even have "let me go" out of theirs....But now looking back on these relationships I notice so many signs and so many acts that I fail to pay attention to or made excuses for..Like the saying says "when someone shows you who they are..believe them"...but it's always easier said than done...I guess we try to make people out to be what we want them to be and not who they really are...There is an exception to every rule and I'm pretty sure there are relationships that start off rocky and people change but for the most part we lack this fine art of "letting go"...we hold so tight and dear to theses things that we often miss great opportunities worrying about things that aren't worth shit....I suggest to you that learn how to "let go" and more importantly "MOVE FORWARD" but hey moving forward is a whole 'nother blog ;-)

♥Love is in the air, & I'm choking on that muthafucker♥

So my anniversary is tomorrow, me and the hubby will be going to the Hawks game...HOME TEAM BABY WHOOT WHOOO....lol if you from the "A" you know what I'm talking about..but we plan on having a nice evening...3 yrs strong...still in love.....we are high school sweethearts...yes very rare these days....2 yrs together...1 yr of marriage..and 1 beautiful angel later we are still hanging in there..give it up for the GREAT AND GOD FEARING MEN OUT THERE..this is for you baby...much love..for ever and always plus 18 ;-)

Trey Songz...to photoshop or not....

so I came across this picture of Trey Songz...many say that it is ABSOLUTELY UNEQUIVOCALLY WITH OUT A DOUBT PHOTO SHOP...BUTTTTTTT what if it isn't...I shall call on JESUS LAWD and SWEET BABY JESUS on that one because he has surely been blessed...THANK YA LAWD AMEN!!!!!!!!

Shaniya Davis (may the Lord bless her soul)

I recently read a very disheartening article about 5 year old Shaniya Davis. For those of you who do not know she is a young girl whose body was found yesterday afternoon..her mother had reported her "missing"...further investigation showed that she was in fact not missing and her mother was arrested for a list of charges: human trafficking, felony child abuse, prostitution, filing a false police report and interfering with the investigation. The sad thing is that Shaniya had only been with her mother for the past 3 weeks...Her father had sole custody up until now when her mother finally showed that she can hold down a job and was "ABLE" to take care of her daughter..Now I believe everyone deserves a chance..but excuse my language this BISH needs to be locked up and they need to throw away the KEY!!!! How can you be so reckless with your own child's life..See I have a 1 year daughter of my own and she is my world so you can see where my anger is coming from..things like this piss me off...shame on the court system..I know they have a lot of cases but "holding down a job" does not prove you are a responsible parent...Shit like this really upsets me...My prayer goes out to her dad and all of her family...may her soul rest in peace...We love you Shaniya

INSOMNIA AT IT'S BEST

So I'm up late once again..and decided that I should blog.....so I'm up tweeting my brain off and I stumble across the "Video Phone" video...So I heard the song a couple of days ago and was semi-impressed...Bey being Bey basically..don't get me wrong she's a BAD BISH but I guess she has set the standard so high..her best is now considered her average..everyone is expecting her to TOP the next thing..any who...I really was anticipating her song because I just love the lady that is GAGA, me and her go way back like dookie braids on a ghetto chick ;-)...well I like the video but where was the "VIDEO PHONES" i mean yes the dudes w/ with the camera heads nice touch..but I would like to have seen at least one of those fine specimens hold a damn phone actually video taping Bey...is that asking TOO much....and what was up w/ the guns....*dead* ....guess my brain could not grasp the concept of the video toward the end....*rolls eyes and walks out of the room*

African Beauty ♥

Collections of art

Another 1 bites the dust.....

As my picture says hip hop is dead, or at least behind bars for now...soo I am just in awe as to how MANY of our fellow "hip-hop" artist are facing jail time. First T.I, now Boosie, Gucci Mane, and Lil Wayne have either pending trials or have already been sentenced and are just waiting for them to slam those metal bars...I can't help but wonder what will happen to all of those children who look up to these stars...prison is nothing to be taking lightly...but with so many of these artists going to prison, I wonder if it will be a standard for more up and coming artist. I would think one would want to go their entire life without facing jail time, but hey that could just be me *rolls eyes*....but back to the children that look up to these STARS what are to become of them hopefully they have enough common sense to realize this is NOT the way to go...and that they should be go to school and get an education....not saying the hip hop artist are to blame if lets say little johnny goes to rob a store because he wanted to see how jail was since all the "famous peps are there" lol..I'm sorry i can't help but laugh..that little scenario was a bit comical...just a LIL bit......any who we shall see if they truly have learned their lesson after paying this DEBT TO SOCIETY and kiddos don't try this at home

Falcons Update

So as my true Falcon Fans know that the Falcons played the Jaguars today!!!! Unfortunately we were unsuccessful in bringing a win to the HOME TEAM..But hopefully next time...I HAVE FAITH lol....

THE SCORE

19-28

Final	1	2	3	4	OT	T
ATL	3	7	3	6	0	19
CAR	7	14	0	7	0	28

Friends...and the lack their of.....

What makes a good friend, I have been pondering on this for a while now...It seems that so many so called "friends" walk in and out my life that I have lost sight of what the true meaning of friend is...I give to many people this title...I have never been a trusting person...You have to continue proving yourself for me to trust..it's NOT a one time thing honey...I have had one friend that has been here w/ me for the past 7 years so she is what would be considered a true or good friend but what about those who come and go..why do we so easily fall for these facades that mask themselves as friends..All I can do is shake my head at the bish's who I HAVE ALLOWED to walk in my life and leave nothing but TAKE every and any thing they could from me....Why are we fooled by their welcoming smiles and look over their backstabbing ways...i guess this is life...but I refuse to keep allowing these fake bish's come and go as they please...so like every wack ass show..you have been canceled no more play for you...GOOD DAY and fuck you with a :-)

Power of the Bitch

What does the word bitch mean???? Well according to Merriam Webster's online dictionary it can be used as a noun or a verb. The noun version means:
1 : the female of the dog or some other carnivorous mammals
2 a : a lewd or immoral woman b : a malicious, spiteful, or overbearing woman —sometimes used as a generalized term of abuse
3 : something that is extremely difficult, objectionable, or unpleasant

and the verb meaning, simply means to COMPLAIN.

Now I have many friends and even myself have been guilty of calling each other bitches. I've seen fights break out over the mere mention of this name in a derogatory way. Yes it is a form of disrespect but whatever happened to the saying "it's not what your called but what you answer too". I wonder when we especially as WOMEN will step up and stop giving the word BITCH so much POWER. I mean if you don't give it power how can it have so much control over your actions. And people's response is always the same " But he or she disrespected me"...okay AND SO WHAT. Why risk getting locked up or looking like a fool for someone who obviously doesn't give a damn about you in the first place. Just think about it. Someone calls you a BITCH and you shrug it off, what have they proven other than there lack of vocabulary. But once you start feeding into the word BITCH you are giving it and the person who said it POWER!!!!!

DO me a favor and don't underestimate the POWER OF THE BITCH!!!!

Kandi Burruss ex-fiance' murdered

Kandi Burruss from the popular show "The Real Housewives of Atlanta" and from the singing group "Xscape" fiance' Ashley "A.J." Jewell was murdered last night in a nightclub fight, he reportedly suffered severe head injuries which resulted in his passing. I just wanted to send my condolences to his children, his family, and Kandi. I wish them all the best and hope they can have peace in their time of bereavement.

I MEAN REALLY DOE WHERE THEY DO THAT AT

This is today's segment of "WHERE THEY DO THAT AT"


Okay I really want to know why do I see your pregnant ass in the club, like do you think that shit is cute, we know you love your prego body, shit I have a daughter myself but I'm trying to figure out why are you exposing your unborn child to all of this second hand smoke, take your ass home, WHERE THEY DO THAT AT


Let me get on Kanye ignorant butt, don't get me wrong I LOVE me some YE but who told his black ass too hop on stage and steal that girls moment, it doesn't matter if she was white, niggas always gotta make it a race thing, HE WAS WRONG POINT BLANK, I mean really doe WHERE THEY DO THAT AT

PARENTS I CAN'T STRESS THIS ENOUGH, WIPE your child's snotty ass nose, I don't want Billy or Christina dripping snot ever where, like do you not see that shit, if it's bothering me I know it's bothering your child, they licking they snot and shit, I mean damn shit is gross I mean really doe WHERE THEY DO THAT AT

LADIES there is a difference between SEXY and TRASHY learn it trick, don't get mad when a man calls you a HOE or a SLUT , shit if you dressed like a prostitute my ass would think you walking the corner too. Have some damn self respect, you don't have to show the goodies to get a man's attention, not a GOOD man anyway I mean really doe WHERE THEY DO THAT AT


well this concludes my rambling rant lol, stay tuned for more " I MEAN REALLY DO, WHERE THEY DO THAT AT"

N****'S AIN'T SHIT

Okay this is in no way to hate on the male species, I just figured the headline would get some of you all's attention.

Okay I often hear this phrase a lot ("niggas ain't shit) and it really bothers me how many of us women think. I mean if you go around with this mentality then of course your setting every man you encounter to fit this so called "mold" so once a man messes up, he will always equal to your preconceived notion that "niggas ain't shit".

"Where you meet"

Okay lets first start off with this. Don't get me wrong there is nothing wrong with going out to clubs and bars and having a good time. But if you expect to meet your future husband while you are shaking your ass you really have life misconstrued. You will get what you give off (told to me by one smart soul..lol) 9 times out of 10 when your in a club a man is not looking for his next girlfriend but just a next lay. Which brings me to my next topic

What are you giving off

If you are dressed like a prostitute don't expect a man or anyone for that matter to take what you say or do seriously. Like they say if it walks like a duck, quacks like a duck, it's probably a damn duck..lol..so please have some class...Men are visual creatures..He won't be paying any attention to what you are saying when he can't stop staring at your cleavage or your butt hanging out of your shorts!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You can be sexy and classy, it is very possible. I know your probably thinking a man or anybody shouldn't judge you by what you have on and this is very true but unfortunately our society teaches us differently. So next time you have on a mini skirt in the club shaking your ass or grinding like you should be on a pole somewhere (I'm not bashing exotic dancers but they keep their work at work..for the most part) or on the corner don't get upset when a man thinks that all you want or are good for is sex.

Start with SELF

This should have been first but oh well....If you are not mentally and emotionally stable to be in a relationship, DON'T GET INTO ONE. Getting into a relationship when you aren't ready especially if you have trust issues is not a good idea. You are setting yourself up for failure. Don't expect a man to fix your broken heart. It doesn't work that way. TIME WILL HEAL ALL WOUNDS!! So with that don't think that somebody else to heal those wounds because if he fails then all you are doing is making the wound deeper.

Higher Power

Too each it's own but if you do believe in God or whomever you pray too..I think it would be best to build a better relationship with your higher power. I know my God is an awesome God and he always delivers me through my toughest times. And the closer me and him get the closer me and my husband get.

LOOKS

We get so caught up in looks that we tend to overlook a man's personality..Not saying that looks don't matter let's face it some people have to have some pleasing to the eye. But if this is what solely attracts you to someone, that won't carry the relationship far. Everyone knows looks will fade and we will all soon be old and wrinkled..lol..So focus on getting to know the person first. I find myself being attracted to a man's personality more than anything. In turn when a man has a great personality then he looks even better to me..Anybody who is ugly inside to me is ugly outside to me.

MONEY

We all want a man that can pick up the tab every now and again and can get you nice things..But we ARE young and let's not focus on how much the man has now..But better yet does he have goals what is he striving for. People get so caught up in now that when they realize that the man they are dealing with has no goals and aspirations its too late because you already have gave up the draws..lol..now your emotionally attached and pissed off and saying now that "niggas ain't shit" when he wasn't about shit from the get go your butt was just blinded by his dough and what he could do for you


SEX

Now I don't need to stay on this long but ladies learn some restraint just because you see men f'ing every mary and jane doesn't excuse you for doing it..The saying well nigga's do it..is an EXCUSE a poor one at that...You just as ratchet as the man that sticks his thang in any hole he can find

PRIDE

Now we all have it some a little more than others but just like you like being treated so does a man. A man doesn't want to feel like he is always giving and giving and giving..it's okay to pay for dinner one night or buy a nice gift but remember you are not his MOTHER..which brings me to my next topic

you are his GIRLFRIEND not his MOTHER

Now I see this a lot and it pisses me off. Don't get me wrong I pamper my husband but I AM NOT HIS MOTHER. When you do too much and you literally start taking care of a man..you are playing the role of MOTHER not GIRLFRIEND their is a big difference LEARN IT!!!..which brings me to my next topic

Watch how he treats his MOTHER or other WOMEN

A man's up bringing will effect him in major ways. And how he treats other woman and his mother ESPECIALLY!!!!!!!! So that means if he disrespects his mother the one who brought him into this world and wiped his butt, kept him fed, clothed, and a roof over his head. Why would he show you any kind of respect...just some food for thought




OVERALL

You have to start with SELF and then you can start to build a healthy relationship with another person. I know we all aren't perfect and we all make mistakes but it is not up to us to judge one another. And if you are attracting the wrong kind of men, look at what you are giving off. Take a self evaluation. Be careful to where you are looking for your mate...i know you can meet a "dog" in the grocery store or the library but if he is in the club dancing on every chick..getting drunk and disrespecting woman and you bring him home..don't think he will be any different..Don't be CAPTAIN SAVE A NIGGA..Yes relationships take effort and to have a healthy and great relationship you have to give but if he isn't ready to change yet let it go. Don't keep holding on to something that is bringing you down. Open up your eyes and think with your mind sometimes..Have your BS radar on FULL ALERT...Ask questions don't just take his word for it either. If you feel he is lying let it ride for a week or two and ask THE SAME question and see if you get the answer..STOP MAKING EXCUSES..all men aren't bad..just like Katt Williams said..all nigga's ain't shit..just the nigga's you fuck with ain't shit. Stop being so needy..this will turn a man off..It's good to know your wanted but damn bitch he doesn't have to give you a play by play on his day...maybe you shouldn't be with him if you can't trust him and HAVE to know if he is breathing every second...any who..ima get off my soap box..I just felt some of this needed to be said


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